Today I dropped off my three and a half year old twins, Max and Miriam at the Air Force base CDC (child development center). Usually, Alex drops them off on his way to work down the street, but he has been out of town for a case. Walking in…
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Here is a quick tutorial on this super easy deployment hug idea! The kiddos have really been wishing that they could hug their daddy who is currently serving in Afghanistan so this is what we came up with one afternoon. The first step is t…
I like be creative by composing music, playing the piano, drawing, painting and writing. I also enjoy puns that lighten the mood, no matter how badly the outcome may be. I usually save this privilege for people that know me really well – so…
Living inside of the box, thinking outside of the box, and landing on top of the box with two feet in tact, is no simple matter. First of all, what is this box? Is this a puzzle box? It’s not just any ordinary puzzle box. T…
This is the story of our familyWe are an Air Force family with twins and a son that is living with autism. I am a pianist, composer, music educator, and artist, and I like to do artsy things whenever possible. My husband A…
Hi my name is Makenzie Pickens and my dad is SFC Michael Pickens, he just came back from Afghanistan. While my dad was gone, my whole room was filed with American flags and pictures of my dad and me. Also, when my dad was gone, my friends would cheer me up if I were having [...]
Dear Mrs. Marine,
During deployments, do you stay put or do you move back home with family or closer to family?
Dear Stay Put,
Every time a deployment rolls around I get the same question from other wives “are you going home for deployment?” Meaning “home” as in where I am originally from, which to me, that’s not my home anymore. My home is wherever we are currently stationed. Out of our 8 deployments so far, I have moved back in with family for 1 of them, only because the initial plan then was we were getting out after the deployment. Obviously that didn’t happen. It made me feel like I lost a sense of my independence. It was nice to have the support of my family, but all in all, I prefer staying put if at all possible. Primarily, I don’t want to uproot my kids from their home. I feel it makes the separation even harder on them.
It seems like many wives think “my husband is deploying so I need to leave too.” So they move back with their families for the entire deployment, uprooting children and leaving friends behind. It’s hard for me to understand why anyone would want to do that. Do they feel they can’t survive without their husbands, they can’t be alone? It makes it harder on the wives who stay because not only does your husband leave, but your friend leaves too. It makes everyone want to leave, it’s a domino effect.
In my experience, if you stay put and tough it out, you will find strength and independence you never knew you had. You have to test yourself in order to find out what you’re truly capable of. I have learned so much about myself since I became a Military wife. I am a strong woman and you can be too if you give yourself a chance to spread your wings.
Dear Mrs. Marine,
I am 21 with a handsome baby boy! I am going through my first deployment with my husband and man do I get down a lot. What do you do to keep busy? Also, I’d like some advice on how to manage a ‘newer’ marriage, first deployment, AND a new baby without feeling overwhelmed. I try to keep my hubby as involved in what’s going on as possible but I don’t want to over-do it or under-do it. He works ALL the time and rarely gets any time for himself so I feel like the last thing I should do is bombard him with things from home that will just remind him of how much he misses everyone!
~First deployment, first baby
I feel we all struggle at times to “keep busy” during deployment because if you don’t, time seems to slow down. It’s simple enough in theory, think about what you enjoy doing, and get out and do it! If you’re on or near a base, your husband’s unit should have activities for the wives and family. Attending those is a great way to make friends and interact with other wives whose spouse is also deployed.
Make it a plan to have dinner once/twice a week with other “lonely wives” you know. Also, look online and around the base for a new mommy group. It’s always nice to know other moms with kids the same age as yours. Do NOT allow yourself to sit around and mope, it will not do you, or your baby boy, any good.
My husband has deployed many times. When he is gone I am a “married single parent” it’s not easy. I am their sole provider, it can be draining but after a while I get used to doing it all on my own. Daily life becomes very routine and sometimes the days seem to mesh together. The key is to find things to break up the monotony.
You have the right idea about not bombarding your husband. Keep the info you tell him positive if you can, he needs to know you can handle everything on the home front. When you’re feeling overwhelmed, smile at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself, “I can do this!”
Flag Day is celebrated on June 14th of each year. It celebrates the adoption of the Flag of the United States of America. In 1916, President Woodrow Wilson issued a proclomation that established June 14th officially as Flag Day and in 1949 National Flag Day was established by an act of Congress. So what [...]
Daddy quilt. Each of the kid’s got one for the Marine’s deployment.
I have a new project I’m working on!
There are a lot of online message boards, forums, groups, etc. etc. etc. out there. I have read them a lot, posted on them asking my own questions (which rarely get answered) and also answered posts as well. So many…
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Our 8th deployment is over!!! Hubby got home two weeks ago!!
I’m sorry I have been MIA a lot the last few months… It wasn’t intentional, however I do somewhat blame my recent addiction to Facebook games… LOL! I just haven’t been…
Hello Faithful Readers of This Blog, I wanted to send a brief hello and update as I am now back in the States, performing the military duties that I have to endure shortly after an overseas deployment and preparing for some much-needed downtime with fa…
by Nicholas Sabula On Sept. 27 military family members representing all services, components and disabilities convened at the Department of Defense Education Activity headquarters in Arlington, Va. The purpose was straight-forward: to discuss issues and offer up solutions to the major overarching issues of the military’s special needs community. It’s been several weeks now since [...]
When you are deployed like I am currently, you have a lot of time to think. For an analytical-type person like me that can be both a blessing and dangerous at the same time. Lately, I have been missing home quite tremendously. That is normal with deplo…
I met my husband back in 2006, ah I still remember it like it was yesterday!!!! He was so QUIET!!!! and naturally I was so LOUD! When I met him, I cant say it was LOVE at first sight but it was definitely awe at first sight and I knew there was somethi…
Although luckily this one has so far been going fast! Summer break is already almost over, school starts on August 1st.
Toward the end of August will be the half way point! I’m not sure why, but I always feel better when we reach th…
The last 5 Deployments (this is #8) there was not a need for me to send any care packages to Hubby. Because anything he needed or wanted for the most part he was able to get himself a lot faster than a package would get there.
Well, that is not the cas…
I have been so busy lately, that at night i just cant just sit and type away like I would love to, and my phone, well i end up not posting and it saves it to my sd card in there. lol Here is a little of what has been going on with us latelyDeploym…
having a bad day, its the first time deployment and autism have got to me this deployment. I have been going strong and haven’t had a big meltdown since the day peter left (how funny today is exactly 3months) well anyway I’ve been doing so good keeping…
I havent been posting so much lately, and last night i typed up a LONG LONG post and when i clicked POST it said there was an ERROR!!! i was so upset i just went to sleep. I havent been posting so much lately because I havent really had time. I’ve…
I have so much to write about, I don’t even know where to start so I will probably post a few tonight or just post a long one, we’ll see. I’m really liking that I can post from my phone, I can write a little, take a break and write again later. For all…
So I didn’t get a chance to write yesterday, but today I will, and I’m trying it out from my phone, let’s see how well it works.Yesterday Kaitlyn missed her ABA therapy session at the “preschool” setting. I was kind of upset because her therapist is no…
Just got to Skype with my husband, boy was it great! We talked a lot about our Vegas weekend!!! both trying to decide where we wanted to stay! All that talk and we didnt come up with ANYTHING! I have a lot of homework to do now and I need to book soon …
My husband is a Marine, he is currently deployed and oh boy has it changed our lives completely. This is our second deployment, and it just seems so much harder on me than the first one. I think maybe it has to do with the fact that last time i only ha…